You accomplish this by creating a fun, enjoyable atmosphere that gets her excited to reply.To start, there’s one thing you should know that will greatly affect your response rates… I did a huge post about it and nearly all of the profiles I critique suffer from crappy photos. The guys don’t smile, are unkempt, and look like the dating site murderer (pictured above).Seriously, your pictures are all a girl has to go on to determine whether or not you are an axe murderer/pedophile/stalker.
Struggling to think of the right thing to say to an attractive match?
Here’s match.com’s relationship expert Kate Taylor with dating advice on how to give great copy.
Anyone who’s ever dated online has had that moment – the blinking cursor, the empty text box, the racing heart, and the brain so temporarily empty, it has tumbleweed running through it. Make yourself a soothing cup of tea, and we’ll talk about how to do it right.
This is basic, but sometimes daters forget that the first thing a match will do when they receive an interesting email is click on the profile of the person who sent it.
Remember, that’s why she wrote it – because she wants you to get to know her, not because she wants to be told for the umpteenth time that she’s hot. NOT the thing you like the most, NOT the thing you find most attractive, NOT the thing you have in common. It might be how she doesn’t know how to program her Ti Vo. Yes, you think it’s cool that she also likes Robert De Niro movies and skiing in Vail. The sillier and more over-the-top your email, the funnier it’ll be.
Men who treat women as unique and interesting individuals stand a much greater shot of receiving a response. The most interesting tidbit in her profile is the thing that sounds like it couldn’t have been written by anybody else in the world. Whatever it is, take her quirky tidbit and turn it into your pickup line. The most effective way to catch someone’s attention in an initial email is with fiction. Because the truth, as we’ve established, is boring. But does any of that sound like a good pickup line to you? A good joke doesn’t require an explanation – it’s obviously a joke. They send first messages endlessly with no results and constantly tell me how useless it is. I’ve heard countless horror stories and can’t blame women for being cautious.Therefore, I have made it my mission over the last year to really decipher the online dating code. Your only goal in the first message is to assure her that you’re a normal guy.This past week alone I’ve gotten enough poorly executed messages to make me want to curl up in a ball of being-alone-forever.I try not to lose hope that there can be some genuine connections made through meeting someone off of the internet. I have even made several lasting friends from some of my experiences.If they love a certain stand-up comic, use the beginning of one of their jokes (Google is your friend at times like these).