This is the easiest rule to remember but the hardest rule to follow.
It was getting serious with one of my Tinder matches.After a witty opener (he, having studied at Oxford, asked if I was British because I somehow looked it) and exchanging our jobs and educational background, we were discussing our favorite Delaware beach destination.During the month that I used social dating apps to find new buddies, I sent countless unrequited salutations, offered up priceless New York City travel recommendations, and even gave my number to a guy who wanted to discuss first amendment rights. When I started, I believed that, with millions of people just searching for company online, I'd easily find my new bestie or at least someone down for a platonic hang.A friend finder app, after all, didn't seem too far away with Tinder for cats and other spin-off matching services debuting. Lyke Me, an app three Michigan State University students have designed to match people based on interests, is launching this fall.) On a personal level, I wanted more friends.We talked with some friends who have experienced this and shared their insights with us. Is the boyfriend or girlfriend a bad influence on your friend? Do you think your friend’s date is a bad influence?
If someone has a different set of values, or lifestyle choices, you may think your friend is doing harm to mind, body, or spirit.Obviously, abuse issues are a huge red flag and need to be dealt with directly.Or, sometimes the boyfriend or girlfriend may appear to be overly controlling, demanding, or demeaning.Having a friend with benefits is like a dream come true to most, but that doesn’t mean it can’t necessarily turn into a nightmare if not handled correctly.This relationship is great in theory, but often fails miserably due to maintenance and overall execution.If your friend is in a relationship that diminishes self-esteem, rather than enhancing it, pray earnestly and look for ways to build up and encourage your friend.