Military online dating scams dating on and off again

It’s a story as old as the internet itself: Boy meets girl, girl falls for boy, boy asks girl to wire him thousands of dollars and then vanishes off the face of the earth forever. A scammer — usually from West Africa — poses as a deployed American soldier in search of love.

However, they don’t talk about it and they certainly don’t tell you they are on a “top secret mission”. He says he is not allowed to talk about what he does, however, he has cleared it with his CO that he can tell you enough to make you believe he is who he says. If he truly is not allowed to share any details about his job, his CO doesn’t even allow him to talk about it with family, much less someone he met on the internet.Also, any special operations soldier worth his beret will not reveal his location to someone he doesn’t know (or even someone he does! Sometimes with this tactic, they will ask you to email/send mail to the CO to ask for permission. I know some very unlucky people but this is just over the top.Not everyone using online dating sites is looking for love. As if all that isn’t bad enough, romance scammers are now involving their victims in online bank fraud.Scammers create fake online profiles using photos of other people — even stolen pictures of real military personnel. And they tug at your heartstrings with made-up stories about how they need money — for emergencies, hospital bills, or travel. Here’s how it works: The scammers set up dating profiles to meet potential victims.Victims think they’re just helping out their soulmate, never realizing they’re aiding and abetting a crime. She's not sure if the man she is talking to is real... Her story is almost same as yours, she has sent him a lot of money already, mostly for his daughter who is going to boarding school in Africa (or something like that) she also sent her money for a birthday party. I never accept unknown requests but hit the wrong button by mistake.

Here are some warning signs that an online love interest might be a fake. he says he has no family just the family of deceased wife who is supposedly caring for girl while he is working overseas for an oil company as an engineer. I bet he told you his wife is alcoholic and has multiple affairs. My first question was why anyone would send a stranger a request. I then proceeded to respond to his request to get to know each other while I caught him in lies. Single father of a 12 yo boy whose mother died in a crash 4 years ago.

After all, every fake profile is created using a real soldier’s picture.

According to Grey, this not only harms the reputation of the individual service member, but the reputation of the military as a whole.

Then the supposed CO sends back a letter asking for money to connect a phone line or some other complete lie. He says one of the following…parents died, his wife died in his arms, his wife was killed in a car accident along with all of his children, his children are orphaned and living in some remote location, or he was orphaned……all LIES. And I mean if this was for real and that kind of luck follows him, why do you want to be with him? He says he doesn’t have a mailing address because either he is in a classified unit or his position changes so often.

Even in special operations, he’ll have an APO address.

The victim and the scammer create an online relationship.